Healing emotional triggers

Emotions create an environment in our minds that affect how we decide.
Quality decisions are made from a mindset that is neutral and functioning in a way that is able to have a relaxed and open perspective.
Or in other words, a mental environment that is experiencing such emotions as;
✅ Inspiration
✅ Peace
✅ Freedom
✅ Compassion
✅ Confidence
✅ Security
✅ Abundance
✅ Worthiness
✅ Competence
✅ Independence
✅ Generosity etc
Obviously this is what we want!
Yet operating in a position of leadership demands constant exposure to all kinds of external stimuli and these can (and do) trigger habitual emotional responses - many of which are unhelpful.
Being triggered knocks us out of a quality-decision-making mindset just as fast as that mega croissant with jam will knock you out of ketosis! 🥐🥐🥐🥐
Before we know it we’re in a state of some degree of;
😐 Anger
😐 Criticism
😐 Disappointment
😐 Worry
😐 Overwhelm
😐 Discouragement
😐 Unworthiness
😐 Guilt
😐 Shame
😐 Betrayal
😐 Unlucky etc etc etc
Yet it’s your powerful adult self who decides whether to eat that croissant or not.
Unfortunately our powerful, adult selves do not choose our triggers or whether shit blows up internally if something puts pressure on an emotional landmine 🤯
Our habitual, automated emotional responses are in the hands of a frightened and irrational child under the age of 7 who is yet to develop the power of reason.
And a lot of the time this is who is making decisions on our behalf. Even if we’re managing to suppress how our emotions are manifesting externally.
What does this mean?
Firstly, let’s not berate ourselves when we over-react emotionally to a situation.
We don’t go hating on a 2 year old who suddenly finds himself alone and unsafe do we?
Of course not!
Yet I see clients beating themselves up terribly for momentary lapses of reason that they had very little control over at the time.
The frightened child needs love, compassion and patience from our adult selves and this is the appropriate initial response.
There is also an appropriate secondary response;
Introspection.
And then taking responsibility.
These days it is entirely possible to integrate our younger selves into our main personality so that we can more readily operate from a neutral and good-feeling emotional state.
A state far less prone to emotional hijack and far more conducive to making excellent decisions.
As a leader it’s our responsibility to ourselves, our families, our businesses and clients to take integrative measures.
And just like that croissant, it’s up to us to decide if we go there or not.

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